The Harsh Start-Up
Unlike your run-of-the-mill relationship advice, this piece actually has some neuro-science behind it. Whenever you begin a conversation harshly, you initiate a cortisol (stress hormone-look it up here) level spike in your victim's brain. The amount that it increases depends on a variety of factors including their own trauma history, how "harsh" you're being, your perceived status, etc. Want to know strategies to begin more softly? Skip below to "keys to a soft start-up."